Ep. 320: Playing Small to Play Bigger
Unperform with Tiffany Han (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)
Tiffany Han
4.7 • 525 Ratings
🗓️ 9 June 2020
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
This week, I'm tackling a question I get a lot: how do I balance slowing down with the big goals that I have for myself? Do I have to choose one or the other?
Short answer: no.
Longer answer: there's a lot to consider here.
We’ve been programmed to think that BIG is BETTER. The thing is, playing big is often what our ego wants. And it's easy to demand of ourselves that we do ALL THE THINGS IMMEDIATELY. (Which only leads to burnout and not being able to make progress on much at all!)
So where do you go instead? What if focusing on playing small is actually the starting place?
If you’re someone who feels disconnected to your life, or you feel connected to your life but feel disconnected to yourself, then this one's for you. You'll hear about the value of getting granular with your life, why ‘sitting still’ could be empowering, keeping your focus on the life that you want, self-compassion, and taking bold actions. Enjoy!
Things I said:
"We can actually get closer to the lives that we want by learning how to play small in order to play big."
"The things that feel small might actually be the most powerful expressions of you and your gifts in the world."
"How we do one thing is how we do everything."
"In the hard moments, your number one job is to stay put."
"The core of the life you want is rooted in your values, personal agency, self-care and compassion."
Those Timestamps:
02:00 - You've got big work to do
07:40 - Playing Big vs. Playing Small
15:10 - Getting granular with your life
22:38 - The power of 'sitting still' in hard moments
25:11 - Personal agency, self-care, self-compassion
34:25 - Ditching your "Yeah, But"
38:05 - Go play small, get granular!
Show Notes:
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to raise your hands say yes with life coach Tiffany Hahn. This is a podcast that is all |
| 0:06.8 | about teaching smart, ambitious women, how to raise their hands and say yes to all of those things |
| 0:11.4 | they want to do, be and say without compromising their standards or their sanity. For more information, |
| 0:17.8 | go to Tiffanyhan.com and now on to the show. |
| 0:24.3 | Hey, y'all, Tiffany here. |
| 0:32.9 | Coming at you as an intro to the intro to this week's episode, this episode was one that I, |
| 0:38.7 | if you listened to last week's episode, was one that I was originally planning on running last week, |
| 0:45.3 | got everything prepped, and just realized and decided that it was not the episode that needed to be run. And I am running the episode this week, but I wanted to add just a little bit of an |
| 0:51.3 | intro to the intro context, a precursor to the episode to talk about, |
| 0:59.7 | just to put this idea of, as you're going to hear in the episode, playing bigger and playing |
| 1:03.9 | smaller into context with what I'm hearing from so many women in my audience right now, which is what can they do to help? |
| 1:13.4 | How can they start to support anti-racist movements in their lives? |
| 1:18.3 | And even beyond that very specific question, I think we're always also grappling with the bigger |
| 1:26.9 | question of how do I show up in a way |
| 1:30.7 | that is being of service to the world? How can I make myself available to live within my values |
| 1:39.1 | and be a person who can help change the world? And a lot of that comes into play when we think about |
| 1:46.4 | raising our hands and saying yes to all of the things we want to do, be, and say is that the |
| 1:51.6 | undercurrent of so much of why we do what we do is because we feel like we have something to say, |
| 1:59.0 | something to do, something different to be. And, you know, there is this |
| 2:04.7 | kind of constant tension that we can live in of are we are always grappling with. I feel like |
| 2:11.1 | I'm simultaneously too much and never enough. And, you know, yes, that is, that is the thing is yes. And are we simultaneously, |
| 2:23.4 | you know, having to live in that place and juggle that and figure out how to proceed from that, |
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