Ep. 303: Tired of Chasing: How to Tell if You're Ambitious or Just Activated
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 24 October 2025
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
Natalie reflects on being tired of chasing and how it masquerades as ambition, tenacity and persistence. She explores people-pleasing patterns, over-identification with roles, why we believe things must be hard, and how to recognise when you're trying to meet old needs rather than pursuing what's truly aligned with who you are now.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Liu, and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions, where we break the patterns that break our hearts, relationships and bodies. |
| 0:09.5 | Since 2005, I've run one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, BaggageRe claim.com. |
| 0:16.0 | I'm a boundaries and relationship coach and the author of five books including Mr. Unavailable and the |
| 0:21.5 | foreback girl and the joy of saying no. I help you reclaim yourself from emotional baggage |
| 0:27.6 | by letting go of emotional unavailability, people pleasing and unhealthy relationships so you can |
| 0:33.9 | live in love with more love, care, trust and respect. |
| 0:40.2 | Hello, hello, hello. |
| 0:41.9 | How are you doing? |
| 0:49.2 | Before I jump into today's episode, I wanted to ask for a guest recommendation. |
| 0:58.2 | I know a number of people personally and professionally who are mostly 40 plus and they've been job hunting for close to or even more than a year. Unlike back in the day when you would drop your |
| 1:06.2 | CV off somewhere or you would email or yeah, fax it, and then get a reply. And unlike when you would |
| 1:14.2 | have an interview and you would hear back either way, job hunting is very much like modern dating, |
| 1:23.1 | where there can be a lot of ghosting and malarkey going on. And this is hard really for anyone who's going through this, |
| 1:30.8 | but I'm also aware of how when you've already grappled with certain experiences |
| 1:36.4 | in childhood and adulthood, this job hunting carrying on can really mess with your head. |
| 1:42.4 | I'd love to chat with someone on the subject who can also offer really practical advice. |
| 1:48.3 | If you are that someone, or you have a great recommendation, then please email me at |
| 1:54.3 | podcast at baggage reclaim.com or just hit me up on my socials. |
| 1:58.1 | And the links to all of these are in the show notes at |
| 2:00.9 | baggage reclaim.co.uk forward slash 303. Okay. So on with today's episode. Let me hit you with it. |
| 2:12.3 | I realized during the summer that I am really tired of chasing. This all hit me when I had been working |
| 2:26.7 | on the book that I released in the summer called Let Go. It was only available for three weeks. |
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