Hello, hello, hello.

This is a Between the Sessions, Minnesota.

In this series, I'm revisiting some of the greatest hits from the 20-year baggage reclaim archive,

sharing timeless lessons on love, care, trust and respect,

and recognizing when you're in unavailable or shady territory.

This minisode features a post from March 2012.

Why do they keep having sex with me if they're not interested or don't want the relationship

I want?

Another hugely popular post, it answers a question that's kept many a person awake at night

and stuck in a situation ship feeling bad about themselves. Let's dive

on in. Picture this. You're attracted to someone. You think they're funny, clever, witty,

and that they embody all the physical qualities you like. You appear to share common interests and possess a similar outlook.

After a date or few, you sleep together and feel as if there's an amazing connection.

A pattern emerges.

After the initial burst of calls, texts, emails, DMs and off-the-chain sex,

you're in not knowing where you stand territory,

but you're still sleeping together.

One night, lying there in the afterglow of another good session, you tentatively ask what the

score is.

Or you mention a forthcoming event that you'd like them to come to with you.

You want to progress things, and there's a niggling concern that you'd like them to come to with you. You want to progress things,

and there's a niggling concern that they're using you for sex, although you really don't want

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