0:00.0	Welcome to another between the Sessions minisode. In this series, I'm revisiting some of the
0:06.0	greatest hits from the 20-year baggage reclaim archive, sharing timeless lessons on love, care,
0:11.9	trust and respect, and recognising when you're in unavailable or shady territory.
0:17.1	In December 2009, a guest writer shared her tale of how a Mr. Unavailable who made lots of noise about spending Christmas together, instead disappeared and opted to spend it with his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend.
0:31.6	In response, I wrote an article where I coined a term that would take on a life of its own. Future faking.
0:40.2	Several years before, I'd briefly dated a guy who introduced me to his parents on our first date.
0:46.7	A couple of weeks later, the night before he disappeared and stopped taking my calls, he talked
0:52.6	about our moving in together. Afterwards, I felt
0:56.1	genuinely baffled, bemused and wrong-footed by his behaviour. I'd been raised to believe that
1:03.1	being introduced to someone's parents and talking about the future meant something. Of course,
1:09.6	it wasn't the last time this happened to me, and I, like so many
1:13.4	others, internalised this sea change in behaviour and promises as something I'd done wrong.
1:20.7	Years later, once I was writing baggage reclaim and giving a name and descriptions to things and experiences,
1:28.9	people, particularly women,
1:35.3	had thought were in their imaginations or their fault. Stories like the guest writers, and so,
1:43.5	so many readers, lit something in me. I went on to explore future faking in my first book, Mr.
1:44.8	Unavailable and the Fallback Girl,
1:49.7	plus on many other articles on baggage reclaim in a course on this podcast.
1:55.0	If you do a search online, it brings up many thousands of results,
1:58.5	with the term being popular around explaining narcissistic abuse.
2:02.4	I've even spotted a video on Instagram of the term being discussed on a national TV show in the US. Anyway, today I'm sharing future fakers and future
2:10.3	faking, understanding why someone fakes a future with you. Let's dive in. Why does someone pretend that they're going to be and do more
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