Ep #287: Shame, the Nervous System, and Emotional Outsourcing: Exploring the Interconnections

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 15 August 2024

⏱️ 21 minutes

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#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity.

Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological manifestations of shame, the role of the nervous system in responding to shame, and the importance of cultivating a more supportive relationship with yourself.

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.
0:15.0	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:22.0	Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:23.0	Welcome, my love.
0:24.0	Let's get started.
0:29.0	Hello, my love.
0:30.0	I hope this finds you doing so well. This week I want to talk about a thing that most of us don't like to really look at and that's shame. Shame operates like a subterranean force, unseen, unnamed, not
0:50.0	discussed and oh so potent shaping the landscape of our emotional lives and how we interact
0:58.3	with the world and all of those people in it. For many, shame is the hidden driver behind our emotional
1:06.4	outsourcing, our cod dependent perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, where
1:10.9	self-worth is outsourced to external validation and internal validation
1:16.2	becomes dependent on others approval and acceptance.
1:20.3	Understanding how shame roots itself in this pattern we live in is super important if we are to shake on free of it
1:28.0	and step into community-focused, liberatory interdependence. So my loves, let's define terms.
1:35.0	Shame is a complex and multifaceted experience that can manifest in both subtle and overt ways,
1:42.0	often affecting us on a deeply somatic or felt body-based level.
1:47.6	It's not just feeling bad about something we've done, that's guilt, which can be useful.
1:53.0	Shame is a pervasive sense of being fundamentally flawed.
1:59.0	This distinction is crucial.
2:00.0	While guilt might say, I did something bad.
2:04.0	Shame whispers, I am bad.
2:08.0	This whisper is deafening, shaping our sense of self and our interactions with the world.
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