I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello hello hello. How are you doing?

Welcome to the final episode of 2022, which almost didn't happen because I've been well for the last couple of weeks or so

thanks to flipping COVID get me again anyway enough of the trials and tribulations of COVID.

I am excited today because I'm sharing

a deleted chapter from my forthcoming book The Joy of saying No. A simple plan to

stop people pleasing, reclaim boundaries and say yes to the life you want, which is

currently available for pre-order so please if you're planning to buy the book, jump on it now.

This chapter was called, Gone Girl, Tiger Woods, and the Dark Side of People Pleasing.

And it wasn't included in the book because space constraints.

And so elements of the chapter

did find its way into other parts of the book but actually a big

chunk of it didn't and so ever since I realized that it wasn't going to be in the book I

was like I totally have to share this on the podcast. Now this is a time of year where a lot of people

reflect on the year that's gone by the year, and sometimes it can be in quite a critical way.

There has often been this message of New Year, New You.

And in this chapter, I talk about how people pleases can find themselves behaving in very uncharacteristic ways that surprise themselves and others.

They go rogue on being good. They go rogue on their own

and other people's expectations, often in quite painful ways. But also of course

people-pleasing takes an emotional, mental, physical toll on us.

And we don't need to keep subscribing to other people's or even our own distorted ideas of who we should be.

And rather than us trying to push ourselves into be an idealized self, something I've talked

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