I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello. How are you doing?

Picture this. You realize that your colleagues made a series of mistakes on their task,

and when you approach them about it,

they deny they've made a mistake.

They say that they were doing things right.

And, well, it must be the system or someone else's fault.

Even if they say they're sorry, they still see the mistake as

something that happened because of something or someone else. So they're

effectively saying sorry for being the casualty of someone else's mistake, even if that isn't true.

Or, let's say, and this actually happened to someone I know by the way, you've agreed to an open relationship with someone.

And you discover that after they asked to borrow your car to run errands, they've actually been using the car to run errands, they've actually been using the

car to drive around their various hookups. When you confront them about it, they say that it's not an issue and that they can do what they want with the car when they borrow it.

Apparently, you have no right to be upset about it or any other shady behavior because, well,

here we go. You're not in a relationship, so they don't have to give to hoots about your feelings apparently or the impact of their behavior.

Whether it's that someone flat out won't take responsibility or is quick to pass the hot potato of

blame or to try to minimize their responsibility it's really bloody

frustrating and annoying to be on the receiving end of this.

And if we see the situation for what it is and are aware of our boundaries, then hopefully

we can handle the situation from that place. On the other hand we might and this

does often happen second-guess ourselves and even absorbed the blame.

Hell, we might even find ourselves apologizing to them.

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