I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello how are you doing?

As you can imagine in my line of work, I hear a lot of stories. And no matter the situation, the context, the people people involved there is an element of

expressing anger frustration hurt over feeling as if they have been and done so much given so much and yet it is underappreciated, unrewarded, taken advantage of or even abused. And they are experiencing

what I call the people please a feeling so anxiety resentment frustration guilt

overwhelm helplessness powerlessness feeling victimized and yes sometimes feeling

low and if any of that sounds at all familiar to you and you're

really aware of

Feeling like you're not good enough like you put a lot of effort into things into your relationships and yet it's not matched then it's time for you to become familiar with overgiving.

Overgiving is exploiting yourself through the guise of giving to make yourself feel needed, purposeful and

worthy, but also to appeal to others, to mask insecurity or to control a person or situation. You think you're giving

but you're not. Giving is the free transfer of something and for it to be genuine giving you do so wholeheartedly and with

boundaries. Giving without boundaries is where you sacrifice,

and hide your needs, desires, expectations, feelings,

and opinions to meet and take care of other peoples.

You are not giving for a place of generosity and with genuine

awareness of yourself, the other person and your respective responsibilities, but

from a hidden agenda. In not valuing yourself and feeling

insecure about whether the person will or does need want or value you, you make yourself busy doing things to not only prove

yourself to this person but to create the O for them to reciprocate.

Or you make yourself busy and attempt to be indispensable

or beyond reproach in the hopes

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