Ep. 256: Even Grief Brings Out the Pleaser in Us!

The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

Natalie Lue

Emotionalunavailability, Health & Fitness, Emotionalintelligence, Emotionalbaggage, Lifeadvice, Mental Health, Happiness, Society & Culture, Psychology, Relationships, Selfesteem, Selfcare, Dating

4.9 • 867 Ratings

🗓️ 25 March 2022

⏱️ 32 minutes

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It's been five years since Natalie's father died, and she's got some things to share about grief and anger, including why we don't have to perform our feelings for people or withhold our grief to pussyfoot around others.

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0:00.0	I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.
0:08.0	Hello hello.
0:10.0	How are you doing?
0:20.7	This coming Monday, March 28th, that's 2022, in case you happen to be listening in future,
0:31.0	will be five years since my father died and in today's episode I want to share a few thoughts that I have on grief. And keep in mind that grief is not just
0:38.6	about death in the sense of a person dies. We experience grief in everything in life because in
0:49.9	gain there is loss. We are always shifting, we are always evolving and so in the
0:55.3	process of that we have to let go of certain things. And also because as humans, we want to be do and have certain things that we feel really matter to us.
1:10.0	And sometimes we're not going to be do and have all of those things and we will have
1:17.0	to grieve that. And sometimes we will get exactly what it is that we said that we wanted
1:22.4	to be do and have. And we're going to have to grieve
1:24.8	that too because it turns out that there were certain things that weren't quite us.
1:31.0	We're always grieving. We are sometimes hankering for the person that we believed we were in the past.
1:41.0	There are some of us who think that the best of us has gone by that when we were
1:48.6	a kid that's when things were best or when we were of a certain age it's like oh my gosh like I was
1:53.8	amazing then and now it's just like on a total downer and then there was some of us
1:59.2	who and I would have definitely experienced this where we've had to grieve for the person that we didn't get to be like the kid we didn't get to be the childhood we didn't get to have the parent that we believe we were supposed to have instead of the one that
2:17.8	we actually got.
2:21.9	So it is, yeah, I'd agree, and we thought we would be maybe somewhere else by now.
2:28.4	We thought we would have achieved certain things.
2:31.1	We never imagined that we would not have certain relationships with us. We didn't think
2:39.9	that we would outgrow a certain friendship. We didn't think that we would no longer
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