I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello how are you doing?

So given very recent events,

so I'm recording this at the end of March 2022 just in case you happen to be listening in the future,

I've received a number of messages from people who wanted my take

on the whole Will Smith slapping and cursing out Chris Walker at the Oscars.

And I've also had a number of messages from people

wanting a bit of insight into how we can end up erupting, exploding, losing our temper and behaving in a way that really

is actually rather uncharacteristic but can also be pretty self-destructive. Now if you've been

listening to me, reading me for long enough you'll know that really commenting on

current affairs and dissecting celebrities, that's not really my lane.

However, what is my lane is talking about the baggage behind our behavior, the baggage behind our habits, understanding ourselves better as humans.

So what I want to talk about today is how we can have our back by recognizing the ways in which we can ward off losing our temper in a way that's going to cause us to behave in ways that we're very

likely to regret and also how to support ourselves in the moment.

Now I recognize in saying this that there's a distinct possibility

that we might only have the awareness of our temper when we've already

lost it when we're already in the aftermath of it. So it's possible that we will be

learning this stuff retrospectively or it's possible that using what we already know about ourselves if we are consistently in touch with how we feel about ourselves, we can start to get a reading on that and recognize where we need to be a little bit more honest, be a bit more consistent,

where we need to feel our feelings more consistently, where we need to allow ourselves to recognize

our irritations and frustrations so that they don't build up.

There are times in my life where I've snapped and lost my temper, you know, lashed out in a way that really doesn't

reflect who I am.

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