Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 10 December 2021
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Natalie delves into what's going on when we try to find out whether someone we've just met (or have only just started a relationship with) is emotionally available.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:08.0 | Hello hello. |
| 0:10.0 | How are you doing? |
| 0:19.5 | If you were interviewing for a job, do you think it would be possible for you to know without actually having taken the job, do you think |
| 0:26.6 | it will be possible for you to know what that job is going to be like in the day-to-day? |
| 0:31.8 | Like what the realness of it is, what it would be like to work there, what the company is going to be like, what the people are going to be like, what your boss is going to be like, what the challenges are going to be. I'm going to hazard a guess that your answer is no, that you don't think |
| 0:47.0 | it will be possible to know this. Now we can flip this around and ask the question of, well, what if you were interviewing somebody to work for you? |
| 0:57.0 | Do you think it will be possible to know without actually hiring them exactly what they would be like and what all those |
| 1:08.1 | things that you had discovered through the interview phase how much of that was true. Do you think it would be possible |
| 1:14.6 | for you to know what it would be like to work with this person, what their expertise is, |
| 1:19.3 | you know, how things are going to pan out in the next three, six, nine, 12 months and beyond. I'm going to hazard |
| 1:25.1 | to guess that your answer is no. And you might be able to guess where I'm headed with this. |
| 1:30.4 | You see, my most frequently asked question in the 16 plus years of running baggage reclaim is |
| 1:40.4 | Is this person emotionally available or how do I find out if this person that I've just met or who I've been dating for a little bit? |
| 1:48.5 | How do I find out if they're emotionally available? |
| 1:51.5 | And the most prevalent assumption is I've just |
| 1:58.4 | chatted with this person over text or online or whatever |
| 2:01.9 | or we've been on a few dates, we've been dating for a while, |
| 2:05.0 | we have so much in common, I've decided we're compatible. |
| 2:09.0 | Or they seem emotionally available based on how they've come across so far. |
| 2:15.9 | And so in this episode I want to quickly address this question because by goodness |
| 2:21.1 | I hear from so many people who struggle with this and I want to help you |
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