I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Welcome to December.

Okay, so what am I getting into today?

Picture this. You're in a conversation with family, friends, maybe a romantic partner, and you start to feel uneasy.

It's probably just a normal conversation to them.

You know, to volley back and forth ideas, to hear both sides of an argument, but for you it's something else. It feels like a debate, like

you're on opposing sides and that someone's going to win or look like they're the best or better and someone isn't.

It might feel conflicty, confrontational, like the other person is doubting your

intelligence, expertise, integrity. If this sounds at all familiar, you're far from being alone. All humans have some degree of

discomfort with conflict and criticism, whether it's broaching the subject or the consequences emotional or otherwise.

But some of us, plenty of us, feel very threatened by people having differing opinions to us or just well not being like us.

We read it as being challenged. Now let's be real there are people who it doesn't matter the

the people or the context work family total strangers on the internet, they're going to go

toe to toe and they would have a fight with a paper bag. But although we do live in a climate

and culture where not only are we so much more aware of people's opinions, but it's also pretty polarized and very you're either with me or against me or oh you like that or you don't like that okay

yeah I'm at plenty of us actually feel uncomfortable with disagreeing with or

quite simply being different from others and find it particularly

threatening when it comes to our intimate relationships. It's why we people please and tell them what we think

they want to hear. While we might for instance have no issue raising concerns or

debating information or content at work, we might feel very uncomfortable getting into what

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