Ep. 232 Columboing New & Prospective Partners on Social Media
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 9 July 2021
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:07.0 | Hello hello. How are you doing? Picture this. |
| 0:15.0 | You started chatting with somebody that you've connected with via a dating app. |
| 0:22.0 | You feel like you're hitting it off, like you're getting on well, and you're getting |
| 0:25.7 | ready to meet up in person. And then you decide to do a spot of columboing, and you check them out on Instagram for instance and discover |
| 0:37.0 | that they are following people that |
| 0:45.0 | they basically get your backup and so they're following what you regard as sexy people, heart people, |
| 0:49.0 | people who you think they're romantically sexually interested in. They're people who maybe you're like, |
| 0:56.0 | oh my god, like I can't believe that I thought that this person could be a potential partner for me and they like that kind of person or they're into that kind of thing. |
| 1:07.1 | It could be that the people that they are following, you're like, oh, they follow a lot of women or they follow a lot of guys. |
| 1:14.8 | And they like a lot of like the hot pictures and they make comments that make me feel a bit |
| 1:19.8 | icky. So now you're in possession of this information that you didn't come by as a result of this |
| 1:28.0 | person being like, hey, do you want to check out my profile and see what I'm up to? |
| 1:31.8 | You found it out because you decided to go columbary. |
| 1:34.0 | Let's take it up a notch. Let's say that you haven't just started chatting but |
| 1:40.0 | you've now already been on one or a few or even several dates and you're feeling like, |
| 1:45.8 | oh, like I quite like this person. |
| 1:48.9 | And then you decide to do a spot at Columboing and discover the same stuff. Or maybe what you discover is that they're |
| 1:57.8 | still connected to, for instance, an X. And of course that's not necessarily a bad thing, but immediately you're like, oh, they're connected to their ex. |
| 2:07.0 | And oh, they have like these pictures with this person and, oh, this makes me feel a bit funny. |
| 2:14.0 | Ooh, I don't know what to think here. |
| 2:16.5 | Are they being suspect? |
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