Ep. 230: Why you're still thinking about that certain someone or thing
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 25 June 2021
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:08.0 | Hello hello. |
| 0:10.0 | How are you doing? |
| 0:13.4 | Have you ever found yourself thinking about someone or something for far longer than you are comfortable with? |
| 0:28.3 | It's possible actually that you might be like, I shouldn't be thinking about this anymore. I should be over this by now. |
| 0:33.2 | It could be that you're still thinking about an X. |
| 0:37.9 | And now that it is months or a year |
| 0:41.1 | or possibly a few years down the road, you're like, what's up with me? |
| 0:46.2 | You started to think, there must be something up with me why I am still thinking about this person. |
| 0:55.0 | It could be that you are thinking about a disappointment or rejection. |
| 1:00.0 | It could be that you compare yourself to someone and now thoughts around this particular person keep coming up. |
| 1:11.0 | It could be that the story of something keeps popping into your |
| 1:16.1 | head at what feel like random times. It could be that the same old judgments self self-critisms, anxious and worrying thoughts keep coming up. |
| 1:27.2 | I've talked about this a bit across other episodes, but I felt like this subject needed an episode all of its own because often the |
| 1:36.8 | trap that we fall into when we're thinking about someone or something a lot is attributing meaning to it that |
| 1:47.2 | isn't necessarily true. So if we're still thinking about our X we assume well it must be because I still have feelings for them. |
| 1:55.6 | I'm still in love with them. It must be because no contact is wrong. It must be because we're |
| 2:00.8 | supposed to get back together. It must be because we're supposed to be friends. |
| 2:04.8 | Or if we are still thinking about that particular situation. Oh, I'm a grateful person. |
| 2:11.5 | I'm unforgiving. I hold on to things or I should like stay angry because obviously I'm not done with this yet. |
| 2:20.0 | It could be that, you know, as we're brooding about this particular person that we compare ourselves to whether it's we position ourselves as being inferior or we position ourselves as superior and then we're like, oh, well, this person matters a lot. |
| 2:36.0 | We start to feel as if we have to do things to try to make ourselves better than this person. |
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