I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Hands up if you are somebody who pride yourself on being there for people, especially loved ones. But you have also at times felt pretty exhausted, drained,

low and even resentful. Well, if you have, you are far from being alone.

One of the challenges when you pride yourself on being there for people is that if you don't also prioritize self-care,

you end up not being there for yourself.

You might hate the thought of a loved one or even a stranger not having someone

to confide in, not having somebody to lean on. It could be that you feel obliged to be there and you feel

guilty when you sense that you are running low or out of bandwidth. There can be this all pervasive fear of being fought of as selfish and mean and lazy and narcissistic, and so you keep giving and narcissistic.

And so you keep giving and giving and giving and

listening and listening and listening and

listening and helping and helping and helping and sacrificing and sacrificing and sacrificing you get the idea

until you become unwell, exhausted, resentful, or lose your temper, or possibly even just

find that you're distancing yourself from people because you just can't take any more. The thing about being there for people is that there's a big difference between support, help, and while being a dumping grant.

And so if you are somebody who pride yourself on being there for people, but you do feel drained, exhausted, resentful, overwhelmed, panicky,

guilty, helpless, powerless, trapped, resentful, the list goes on. These feelings are clues that are

letting you know that you have been a bit of a dumping ground.

Now, I'm going to say straight off the bat,

just because you've been a dumping ground, it doesn't

necessarily mean that the person is going out of their way to treat you like a

dumping ground. There is a difference, right?

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