I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

When life doesn't go according to plan and you are experiencing problems, are you hard on yourself?

Do you feel frustrated with yourself? Do you feel frustrated with life? Do you feel frustrated with everybody else?

Because if you do, guess what? You're not alone. I'm right there with you. In fact, over the last seven years in particular, I became

increasingly aware of how self-critical I could be at times when I experienced challenges.

And that part of my self-criticism came from this place of

but like why am I experiencing problems as if to say that I shouldn't be

experiencing problems. As if to say that I shouldn't be experiencing problems and when this kept coming up I realized

that it was because you know I'm a recovering people pleaser perfectionist and overthinker and these resulted in me being an overgiver and also were driven by me being over responsible.

Now as a result of this, I even as I've been on learning these habits have

found that when I've come up against challenges there's a part of me that's like well it's not fair.

I've done all the things. I'm a good person. I can't believe they said or did that thing even though I blah blah blah.

And of course because I am a recovering people please owners as well because I'm doing the

work that I'm doing. I've been able to

pick upon these and I've used these as ways to to heal, grow and learn to dig a bit

deeper. But I also know that I'm not alone in this frustration that we all go through.

Because remember, we all are going to experience what I call life's inevitable's stress, conflict, criticism,

disappointment, rejection and loss and we're going to experience them even though we're a good person. Even though we tried our utmost best, even though

we did everything we could, even though we haven't done something wrong,

even though we have been kind and loving and generous,

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