This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.

Welcome, my love. let's get started.

Hello, hello my love. I hope this finds you doing so well and I hope you enjoyed last week's conversation all about the self-abandiment cycle.

It really is quite the doozy.

I shared that episode last week and I'm sharing this week's

healing the self-abandement cycle because I asked the folks in Ankerd my six-month

program which episode but not really which episode which like theme that I talk about most encompasses their

experience of emotional outsourcing of cod dependent perfectionist and people

pleasing thinking and the ramifications of that way of experiencing the world, of being in the world.

And over and over and over again what I heard was,

oof, self-abandoned.

Yeah, when I prioritized mom's wellness, self-abandement, when I tell my husband

I don't care what's for dinner, self-abandement. When I agreed to move home to take care of my elder parents

when I really just didn't want to, self-abandement.

When I gave everyone advice over and over and over again

instead of focusing on me and my life,

self-abandlement.

On and on and on we see these examples of self-abandiment when we live an externalizing life, a life where we're not centered

and grounded in our own somatic or bodily experience when we are not embodied, when we are

outside of our body managing other people and their lives and their experiences

and them, them, and not us. Self-abandoned. And we come by it honestly.

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