I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello. How are you doing?

Something I spend a lot of time talking with people about is trust.

And something that becomes really clear about us humans and it makes sense really given how

scared we are of vulnerability of intimacy of uncertainty of risking ourselves of making a mistake of of

uncertainty, of risking ourselves, of making a mistake, of failing,

is that we have an issue with trust.

We have an issue with trusting ourselves and we have an issue with trusting others. And as a result, we do things that maybe don't reflect who we are in the main, but we also sometimes trust the wrong people and distrust

the wrong people as well.

And then on top of that, we can find that we don't feel as if we can rely on ourselves.

We can actually feel quite destabilized by some of our behavior around trust.

And so in this episode I wanted to do a quick deep dive into what trust actually is. How do you know if you trust someone?

Is it something that you just decide?

And even so, is that based on a feeling?

Is that based on, you know, just by looking at somebody?

Like, can you just like look at somebody and be like,

oh yeah, like I trust them or can you look at somebody and be like, yeah, I trust that.

Is it that you're looking for certain criteria and characteristics and so when you see those, it's like bing,ing bing I trust that person I trust that thing I trust that situation

or is your trust based on time and experience of that person or thing or situation. Is it based on genuinely

getting to know them or it? I ask this because if it's anything but the last one you are at times getting caught out by using mental shortcuts known as bias. So this is where you have an inclination or

preconceived idea, yeah, prejudice, in favor of or against a particular person or thing that isn't

actually based on facts. So for instance, I am potentially looking to replace our very old tumble dryer and the first place I went and

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