I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel as if you've been and done all the things?

You know, you're a good person, you're kind, you're generous, you're you're empathetic you're supportive you don't feel that you're judgmental

You you try not to jump on people's cases about every last little thing that they do that might not be you know the nicest thing you work very

hard you put in a lot of effort you try to give everything your utmost best and

then the person says or does something that's the equivalent of,

me, you missed a spot.

Or they say something that indicates disapproval of some form

about something you've said or done. Well you feel as if yeah

you're getting some form of judgment some form of criticism about who you are or what you're doing and how you've gone about it and the sense of I could have done better or I'm not enough or there's something wrong with me.

In these instances, we feel as if we have been criticized,

that we've been judged.

And depending on our relationship with ourselves, as well as our relationship with criticism

we can very much take it to heart. Even those who were somewhat deficient in empathy are very sensitive to criticism.

So we all have some level of fear, some level of discomfort around criticism and it makes sense given that

humans greatest pursuit is for a septance and so as a result our greatest fear is

rejection.

Rejection taps into our fears around meeting our needs for safety and security, around status,

around power, around approval and acceptance. Rejection really speaks to how much do I belong.

Hence when we experience criticism depending on where we are with it we can can have the sense of, oh my gosh, you're telling me that I don't belong.

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