I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Over the last few weeks, I've been thinking about how we as humans put a hell of a lot of our bandwidth,

so our time, energy, effort and emotions into keeping up appearances.

So giving the impression that things are more okay than they are. It might be that we call it

putting on a front, might call it fronten, we might say that we are trying to project an image. But whatever it is, we as my

client put it the other day care more about things looking okay than we do about them actually being okay.

When we keep up appearances we hide something that we deem to be bad or wrong or not okay, you know, not acceptable,

by pretending that nothing is wrong. So We create this illusion to support this idea

to hide these things that we don't want others to see

Or what we do is we pretend that we are more of something or less as

something else so that people will think that we are okay. It's not wanting people to see and know us so well that they might not

like us, that they might judge us, that we might cause the neighbors to think something

about us or our family. We don't want people to know how bad our situation is or to think that we or our family or our

situation or whatever it is are not okay. Now what's interesting actually about all of this is the sense of

things being bad and wrong and not okay and not acceptable and so then putting so much of our bandwidth into creating the

impression that nothing is wrong we as humans put so much of ourselves into trying to protect

something that we don't need to protect, trying to give the impression of

something that we don't need to give the impression of something that we don't need to give the impression of.

These things that we deem to be bad and wrong and not okay and not acceptable, 99% of the time

are not things that are actually bad, wrong, not okay and not acceptable.

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