I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

I had an experience a few months back that I want to share with you today because I have learned so much from it and I use the insight that I gained from that every single day and I've

been passing it on to for instance people who are in my membership and on my courses and it was a

lesson actually about needs. I'm always seeking to understand myself better to use experiences,

to use some of what comes up for me as a way to yeah take better care of me and

then to pass those learnings on to others so that you can glean from that what works for you. And why this really jumped out of me, I think, is because I hear from so many of you that you try to do a lot of things yourself and I'm not saying

that there's anything wrong with that quite the opposite, there's doing things for yourself and there's

doing things for yourself because you excessively self-relie because you don't want to put yourself in too much of a vulnerable

position. You are in that sort of default mode of I can do it myself I can do it

myself and I'm only really gonna to say what I truly need, think, want, feel and expect if it's an emergency.

We don't have to wait until we're in crisis till we're on the verge of, till we're boiling over with anger to express our needs.

Now I've talked very openly about the fact that because I was an over-responsible child and an over-responsible adult and I am a recovering

people please, a perfectionist and overthinker, I have really struggled to ask for help at times

to admit that I'm struggling. I am so much better

than I ever have been at it, but I'm still a work in progress. And this experience that I had actually a few months back really highlighted about how it is so easy to fall into that trap of just trying to manage it all on your own like in your own

head through your own like actions to you and not actually say the thing that needs to be said, do the thing that needs to be done, like name

the thing, get the clarity, ask the question, say this isn't working, create the line, whatever it might be.

To give the brief overview of it, I started working with some people last summer on a collaboration.

I'm not going to get into a whole thing about what that is.

And it got off to a really good start.

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