This week I delve into the subject of looking for a romantic partner to complete you

and what my dog Chester has taught me about neediness.

I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Chester has taught me about neediness.

I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve

their emotional and relationship literacy.

Let's kick this off. Why does somebody keep you out for

why does somebody keep seeking you out for attention and an ego stroke,

despite the fact that they've told you that they're not interested,

or that they don't want a relationship or that they're not over their ex?

Do you remember back in the day when you had your landline phone and snail mail and so when you broke up with somebody or

somebody wasn't interested in you you're broke. Now there are so many ways for us to keep in touch

that we are not only juggling actual connections with our friends, family, coworkers and such, but we can find that there are

people who we've had what may be very brief involvements with that expect us to service

their ego and do this whole let's pretend that we're still friends thing even

when they've knocked us back. So take what happened to a reader recently where she

had a brief fling and she enjoyed it it was good fun and the guy turns around and says hey I'm not over my

ex I know we broke up a few years ago and everything but I'm not over her and I'm not looking

for a relationship and do know what she said?

Okay then and she meant it. She wasn't playing games. She actually didn't want a

relationship either. So in effect it was a mutual agreement. It's just that he was the one to voice his end first.

But no, he couldn't leave it at that. He kept going on about wanting to make sure that she didn't have hard feelings about it and she kept telling him that she didn't.

So as a result, I think that this is what contributed to her deciding to go to lunch and to essentially entertaining him, sort of using her for attention and an ego stroke.

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