Ep. 190: Did I scare them off? Was it my Jedi mind tricks?
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 3 July 2020
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Weeks, months or even years have gone by, and we're still seething or angsting over that foot we think we put wrong or what we imagine our oh-so-powerful influence caused someone or a situation to become. Natalie delves into why we languish on the notion that we scared something or someone away.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions. |
| 0:08.0 | Hello hello. How are you doing? |
| 0:20.0 | Something I think that we all struggle with at one time or another, sometimes on the regular is giving ourselves a hard time because we think that we did |
| 0:30.6 | something that scared away an opportunity or a person. |
| 0:37.9 | And so days, weeks, months, sometimes even years down the road, we torture ourselves wondering, you know, |
| 0:48.0 | is it something I said? Was it something I did? Did I make them change into a different person? |
| 0:56.5 | Did I say or do something to scare them off? |
| 1:00.9 | It must be something I did because they were so attentive at first or they were making all sorts of promises before or they were like were like were like really really into me then or they said it was |
| 1:17.1 | going to happen before but then I something changed so it must be something I did I don't know maybe if I hadn't asked for so much then you |
| 1:29.1 | know they'd still be around they would have had time you know to ease themselves in, get used to me. And then they would |
| 1:36.2 | have been okay with me asking for that, with me being that kind of person. And so maybe it was just too much too soon. |
| 1:46.5 | Maybe I was like too much this or too much that. |
| 1:51.1 | Maybe I was too needy, too sensitive, too dramatic, you know, too uppity, too demanding. Maybe I needed to be like low maintenance. Maybe I wasn't cool enough, maybe I wasn't pretty enough. |
| 2:05.3 | Maybe I didn't sex them right. Maybe I didn't call often enough. Maybe I called too much. |
| 2:10.9 | Maybe I text too little. Maybe I text too much, maybe I didn't make enough noise |
| 2:15.8 | when we were in bed together, maybe I made too much noise. |
| 2:20.3 | Maybe they think like I'm clingy and needy. |
| 2:26.0 | Maybe it was like my desire for commitment that scared them off. Maybe like if I had just been a little bit |
| 2:40.7 | more patient and a little bit more patient and more understanding a little bit more accommodating you know a |
| 2:47.4 | little bit more supportive you know a little bit more of a listener you know know, maybe if I could have just held back, held on just for a bit |
| 2:56.9 | longer, then it would have all been okay. Maybe like after I left the room even though like they seem so |
| 3:09.7 | positive about the opportunity maybe they they were like, oh no, like actually, I think we should give it |
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