I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello. How are you doing?

Something that a lot of a struggle with when it comes to romantic relationships

is the whole thing of defining the relationship.

So this is where we feel as if we need to have the big conversation about what is this relationship or what are we

doing together or where are we headed? What's also adding an interesting layer is these

last few months we've been in a pandemic and depending on where we are in the world this has

affected our ability to date, to spend time with a romantic

partner that we weren't already living with. And if we basically started a relationship during lockdown

and maybe things are easing there, there is this whole question of, okay, like, what is this? And if it's not easing, then, but we have been talking

to that person for a while, again, we're going to be wondering,

what is this?

And so in this episode, I want to talk about, okay, well, what is defining the relationship and why it's important?

You know, what is the purpose of it?

And when is a good time to define a relationship

whatever good time means and what we need to watch out for because there are things

that define in the relationship isn't really meant for.

Now at the center of defining the relationship is this, knowing where we stand.

And this is true, not just in romantic relationships,

in romantic situations.

This is really true of any situation that we are in where what we or the other person is doing,

what the intentions are, you know, the direction, the purpose, whatever it it might be where that is ambiguous

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