I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello, hello.

How are you?

Over the last while, and not just because of coronavirus, but it has definitely been accentuated by it,

I have chatted with a number of people who have found themselves wondering if they should go back to their ex.

An ex who... They're quite a time of it with them. I mean some of them had horrendous situations with these

exes but now the ex seems to be saying all the right things and they seem to have changed and I say

seem because obviously the seemingness occurs within the

context of when they've been around this person or based on whatever it is that they're saying, which incidentally might be face to face, but sometimes it has been by text or email or over the phone or on Facebook.

But it's like, oh, it seems like they've changed.

I mean, it seems like they have a different energy

about things.

They seem so different and so attentive and so caring and so mature and all of these things.

And so based on these encounters, whether they are in person or as I said, you know, my email or whatever, oh yes, even on social media, they start to wonder, oh, maybe they finally come good. Maybe they can be the

person I want them to be.

Now what's interesting is that in some of these instances,

these people who are contemplating getting back together with their ex

are already with somebody else.

It might be a relatively new relationship,

or they've just decided to sort of get back into dating.

And at some point they've typically resolved that they are done with going back and forth with exes.

Well, sometimes I see this carrying on where it's just like one person.

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