I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Something that so many of us struggle with is anger,

specifically allowing our... perfectly allowing ourselves to be angry.

To be clear, while rage is a form of anger,

I'm not talking about that kind of anger because rage is

uncontrollable anger. It is what results from

inconsistent and unhealthy and suppressed anger.

It's not anger in its totality.

But so many of us struggle with giving ourselves permission to actually not just feel

angry, but to still be angry about something. We will try to ignore those feelings.

We will try to rationalize them. We might make out that we are

somebody who is above feeling angry. We're done with it. We're over it. We're past

this. I'm a very, very forgiving person. And these may well be true for all

intents and purposes until we find ourselves behaving uncharacteristically, responding disproportionately to something.

So for instance, we will say, yeah, you know, I'm past this, I'm done with this now, you know, I, you know, I wasn't really that angry. I've sorted that all out with me. And then we find ourselves in a variation of that situation again.

Maybe it's with the same person. And we become besieged by indignation,

frustration, resentment,

deep hurt, disappointment of muri out of emotions. And there was this narrative of, well, after I let that go, you know, or I didn't even turn around and say exactly how upset I was about that, how angry I was, how disappointed I was.

So how on earth could you turn around and do that now?

You know what you did? How could you go and do that? Why have you decided to do this again to me and

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