Ep #164: Healing the Self-Abandonment Cycle
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2022
⏱️ 28 minutes
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#164: This week, I offer my favorite remedies for healing the self-abandonment cycle. I’m sharing my tips for how to intervene when you notice the cycle playing out in your life, and I’ll be guiding you through using somatic work, tuning into your nervous system, as well as when and where to practice thought work.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started. |
| 0:26.7 | Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well. So last week we talked all about the self-abandement cycle. If you are |
| 0:36.9 | just tuning into the show, welcome. Hello, I'm so happy to have you here. I really want to encourage you to listen to |
| 0:44.3 | episode 163, last week's show or this week just won't make any sense and that's |
| 0:50.0 | silly. So take a moment, go back, listen to last week, come on right back here, my love. |
| 0:56.0 | I'm so happy you're here. |
| 0:58.0 | Okay, so last week we talked about this cycle. |
| 1:01.0 | We overdo for others, we over-, we do things people haven't asked us to do, things people could totally do for themselves. |
| 1:09.0 | We live their lives for us, and we do this from our codipendent perfectionist and people-pleasing habits because we |
| 1:16.2 | unwittingly, note the unwittingly I'm not throwing any of us under the bus, but we learned in childhood that this is how you get love. |
| 1:25.1 | This is how you get connection, how you feel significant and important and valuable in the world |
| 1:30.1 | is by doing way too much for everyone else, saying yes yes yes all the time because somewhere |
| 1:37.0 | along the line you learned that being selfless is the thing and being self-ish is terrible. I have a lot of thoughts about that, mostly that |
| 1:48.3 | it's really important to have a sense of self. It's really important to know yourself, to know what matters to you, to know your limits, to have boundaries. |
| 1:57.0 | And this is a key part of overcoming codependency and vital to that is knowing who you are in the world being |
| 2:06.0 | connected with your authenticity. Next week on Monday, April 11th at 7 p.m. |
| 2:11.6 | Eastern Daylight Time, New York Time, I'll be doing a free webinar all about |
| 2:16.6 | authenticity, how we get so disconnected from it in our mind, body, and spirit, and how we can learn to reconnect with our authenticity. |
| 2:26.1 | It's a free webinar. |
| 2:27.3 | I'll be talking all about these themes and of course I'll be telling you more about how you can coach with me, how you can be part of a loving community of human socialized as women who are working to overcome their codependency, perfectionism, people pleasing to get back into that vital sense of self and |
| 2:47.2 | authenticity. |
| 2:48.6 | You can sign up for this webinar at Victoria Albina.com. Com. Authenticity. |
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