Ep #162: Clean Fight Club Rules
Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 24 March 2022
⏱️ 18 minutes
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#162: Join me this week as I give you the lowdown on what Clean Fight Club Rules are, and a list of my own that you can borrow from. I’m sharing some of the limits I set, and why recognizing and honoring these limits makes it easier to be vulnerable, open, and available for real-talk conversations.
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| 0:00.0 | This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine |
| 0:11.1 | expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started. |
| 0:26.8 | Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome to our third and final installment of this wee mini series all |
| 0:37.1 | about interpersonal conflict. So we've been talking for the last three weeks about |
| 0:42.1 | what conflict is and why it feels so enormous, |
| 0:47.2 | how we avoid it and attempt to escape it by pushing it under the rug, pretending it's not a thing, or how we sort of throw ourselves |
| 0:55.9 | headlong into it or create it often without even really realizing we're doing that. We talked last week at some length about how to |
| 1:06.2 | support our nervous system, our limbic system, our inner children to have a |
| 1:09.5 | different experience of conflict and I hinted on that episode about something I |
| 1:16.1 | really love and have found really really helpful in relationship which is |
| 1:21.4 | clean fight club rules which is what we're going to be talking about |
| 1:25.9 | today so if you didn't listen to the last two episodes I would highly encourage that you do that |
| 1:30.8 | and then come on back here because this is probably not going to make a lot of sense if you're just jumping in at this point. |
| 1:37.9 | So my darlings. Clean Fight Club rules are conflict rules of engagement. They are the mutually |
| 1:45.4 | agreed upon rules that two or more people in any sort of Diad can create and |
| 1:52.1 | agree to mutually in order to support the best outcome for everyone. |
| 1:58.6 | So when our goal is to have an interdependent relationship, then mutuality, |
| 2:03.8 | reciprocity, a recognition of mutual autonomy, right? |
| 2:07.7 | I recognize you are an autonomous human |
| 2:10.2 | who can take really good care of your own mind, body, and spirit, and you recognize the same of me, |
| 2:16.8 | and we come into this union, which could be spouses, partners, parent child, co-parents, best friends, whatever, right? |
| 2:27.8 | We come into this connection, this relationship, with the mutually shared goal of wanting to support the other person, |
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