This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine

expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well. So last week we talked about conflict and our concurrent disdain for

and subconscious penchant for inciting conflict as folks with codipendent perfectionist and people-pleasing

thought happens. And this week we'll be talking about how to have a healthier relationship

with conflict. So if you didn't listen to last week's show,

I would recommend that you pause this one. Go listen to last week and then come on back.

It'll make a lot more sense, I promise.

And so this week, we will be diving in to talk about how we can make conflict, particularly in relationships with the people we care about in our lives feel a little easier, a little lighter, a little

safer to traverse.

Last week we started with a dictionary definition of conflict as a serious disagreement or argument typically a protracted

one, which as I said last week feels like a very heavy language indeed. And I think we can really shift our relationship to conflict

both internally within ourselves and in community. We can rethink conflict as conversation. We don't have to make it so heavy and

dire for two people to have differing opinions or points of view. This is not to say

that we have to agree with others and their opinions that we have to condone

what they're saying or even be okay with it if it's not aligned with how we think about the world

and herein I'm thinking about politics more than anything.

As a queer Latinex immigrante with a master's in public health,

there are lots of opinions out there,

particularly in the last two years that I very much don't agree with, very much don't.

And I also don't have to get argumentative or make someone else having thoughts that I don't agree with

into an argument or a conflict.

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