I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

Welcome to another episode. I am still enjoying being back. Yeah, I know, we're like seven, eight episodes down the line now.

This week has been a pretty hectic week because M is traveling again for work and so I scheduled a

workshop like a mini workshop to take place this week and it was before this came up in his

schedules that was just a lot to juggle so I've learned a lot about bandwidth you

know because I always talk about how we are always learning you know about how to take

care about what does and doesn't work for us and I really enjoyed teaching the workshop.

It was a many workshop about people pleasing and it's called

Breaking Good. So breaking the cycle of being the Edwards good girl or the good guy and going around doing all of this people pleasing stuff

because us trying to be good becomes the enemy of us being ourselves becomes the enemy of us being ourselves, becomes the enemy of us being happy,

because we tend to do what more often than not our good things, but for the wrong reasons.

And so we feel bad about ourselves, we have low self-worth,

we feel bad about our relationships so there's a lot of resentment and guilt and frustration and

sometimes a sense of sort of helplessness victim victimization, and yeah sometimes

sort of depressive feelings that come with that.

And it's always eye opening in any class, any workshop that I teach whether it's online or offline

because it's those moments of seeing people register.

Oh, this is what this is about or this is how I could change things.

One thing that really jumped out at me about this whole people pleasing things

is about how when we are going around doing all this pleasing stuff that

habit itself is letting us know that in that moment we are anxious. The funny thing

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