Welcome to Nobody Told Me. I'm Laura Owens and I'm Jan Black.

And our guest on this episode is someone we've wanted to have on the program for a long time.

She is Dr.

Sheffali, a renowned clinical psychologist and New York Times bestselling author who specializes in family dynamics and personal development integrating Western psychology and Eastern philosophy.

Her latest book is called A Radical Awakening. Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free.

Dr. Sheffali, thank you so much for joining us.

I'm so excited to be talking to the two of you.

I love the mission of your podcast, so I'm excited to be here.

Oh, well, thank you so much for saying that.

The new book, A Radical Awakening, aims to teach women how to rediscover the person

we were always meant to be, fully present, conscious, and fulfilled. And I'm wondering,

why is it that we get sidetracked on the path to finding out who we were meant to be?

Oh, my goodness. That is the whole point of the book is, why do we get contract? Yes.

Well, you know, it's a complex answer, but to put it very succinctly, our culture is increasingly

based on a very toxic masculine principle of acquisition, domination, and severe competition.

While a lot of what we see currently has biological primitive roots of survival,

it's gone to such an extreme point that anyone under the pedestal of that power falls prey to being dominated.

So women, children, animals, the earth.

And men also who are not the powerful men in charge are being stampeded and wiped out for

this toxic masculine goal of acquisition and domination.

So having said that, that's the cultural matrix that we women are raised in.

So we intuitively, because now our biology is to be nurturers, is to be caretakers.

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