Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Before today's episode I have a small ask.

John you don't front load and ask it's such a turnoff.

Okay first I just want to say then I really thank you for listening to my podcast.

It has given me a sense of purpose, which has been the greatest gift this world has given me since my rebirth. So thank you for that

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Thank you so much for listening and

enjoy today's episode.

How you bring more to the table in your relationship actually has nothing to do with the relationship, it has to do with you and your own life.

The way you bring more to the table is you do a life audit.

So let me explain.

When I was a miserable fuck, I could have been the best partner as far as like tools communication you know all the things that you're supposed to do all the spaces you're supposed to create and to be honest with you, I think I was. You know, I did a lot of,

I did a lot of holding, holding space as I say, and I did a lot of communicating reflecting I did a lot of

practicing empathy fighting without fighting, listening, supporting, championing, right?

But I was miserable and what for your own happiness and no matter how supportive and how quote-unquote good you are to your partner if you are not

good if you are not happy in your life you're gonna eventually take your partner

hostage right you're gonna and it may eventually take your partner hostage, right?

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