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Happy Place

DJ Fat Tony

Happy Place

Fearne Cotton

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Personal Journals

4.615.2K Ratings

🗓️ 7 September 2022

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

DJ Fat Tony has spent time actively learning what love is after being in abusive relationships and being an addict. Having done trauma therapy, he’s not only begun to understand what healthy relationships with others look like, but also how it feels to love himself, to have self-worth and self-compassion, and not be forced into silence by shame.


In this chat, Fearne and Tony talk about the power and freedom that comes with saying out loud that you need help, as well as how much of a challenge it is to unlearn and re-learn behaviours.


Tony’s memoir, I Don’t Take Requests, is available now at all major book retailers.


CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank chat about child abuse and suicide, so do take care while listening. 



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0:00.0

Hello and welcome to Happy Place. I'm Fern Cotton and this is the show that

0:05.4

doesn't shy away from really raw conversations. Today I'm chatting to DJ Fattone.

0:11.7

I can be in the most amazing, loving relationship but I never loved myself. I never knew how to love myself.

0:18.0

I thought that money was always a way to make people love me or I thought that, you know,

0:25.0

humour, let's all laugh and you're all love me. You know, I've used all of those tools and now by writing this I don't have to use them as tools.

0:34.2

Tony was once an notoriously hedonistic DJ but has now been sober for 15 years. His memoir I don't take requests

0:43.2

covers everything from growing up on a London Councillor's State to the club scene of the 80s and 90s to his HIV diagnosis and going to rehab.

0:53.6

It's honestly one of the most phenomenal books I have ever read. I've been telling absolutely everyone about it so it was just the biggest privilege to be able to sit with Tony as he retold some of the stories from his difficult past.

1:08.8

I have to say, recording this episode with all of you, our Happy Place Festival felt particularly special.

1:15.4

We were all just so wrapped up in Tony's story that you could genuinely hear a pin drop in the tent. We were hanging off Tony's every word.

1:23.6

There was something really powerful about that silence.

1:26.6

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2:55.8

Right, let's do it. This is the show.

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