Can't Stop Caring About What Other People Think of You?? | Mindset Monday

The Tom Ferry Podcast Experience

Tom Ferry

Education, Business, Self-improvement

4.7 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 29 July 2019

⏱️ 3 minutes

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Summary

Are you allowing the opinion of others determine who you are and how you feel? Most people wrap their identity around the feedback they receive from others. It is good to listen to feedback, but it is horrible to let it fully determine who you are. It's horrible to associate how many likes, comments, stars, etc. determine your success. On your deathbed, you're not going to be counting what everyone else has said about you. I would argue that outside of yourself, the only opinions that matter are the opinions those closest to you. Forget the opinions from 90% of other people in this planet. The 10% that you should care about are your mentors, friends, and people you love who are on the same journey as you.

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0:00.0	So many people today have their identity wrapped around how many people watch this video.
0:06.5	How many likes will I get?
0:07.5	How many shares will I get?
0:08.5	Let me give you a little heads up.
0:10.2	Who cares?
0:10.9	The problem we have today, in my opinion, is that again, you're allowing everyone else's opinion to determine your success, the way you feel about you your self-image your self-esteem your
0:24.7	identity is wrapped around a bunch of people on your iPhone I'd ask you to consider
0:30.6	in today's environment if you truly want to be successful.
0:35.0	If you want joy, you want peace, you want happiness,
0:38.0	you need to have like a 90% no, 10 yes, factor around the opinions of others. Let me explain. You shouldn't
0:46.8	give us shit about what 90% of the people on this planet have to say. If they're thinking
0:52.1	about you, if they're talking about you, if they're talking about
0:53.6	you, if you're doing something in your business, 90% of them, listen, you're just an emotional
0:59.0	blip on their radar that day and if they comment on something you did or even wrote a review
1:04.1	without doing a transaction or doing a transaction I would argue do not care about
1:09.5	90%. The 10% you should care about are your mentors, are your friends, are the people that are on the same journey as you that are willing to look you in the eyes and say,
1:19.0	you need to improve in this area.
1:21.0	Or hey, the way you made me feel when you did this was a little
1:23.8	awkward for me consider everyone else's point of view. It is good to get feedback.
1:28.3	It is horrible to read reviews and have them become your identity.
1:34.0	It's horrible to associate how many hearts and likes and stars and this and that.
1:40.0	Having that be the association for who you are the difference you make on your deathbed
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