Before You Say I Do (For Real) #754

Sexy Marriage Radio

Dr Corey and Pam Allan

Relationships, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.6 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 12 November 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the the importance of preparing for marriage, character development, navigating conflict, understanding financial values, and fostering emotional maturity before marriage. We emphasize the need for open communication and trust, and how parents can guide their children in forming healthy relationships. Our conversation highlights that marriage is an ongoing journey of growth and development, rather than a destination. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what surprised Pam and I most about marriage, based on what we thought it would be before we got married. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy

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0:00.0	Well, welcome back to another episode of sexy marriage radio alongside my wife Pam.
0:04.6	Always good to be here.
0:05.5	For many, many years now we keep showing up and having straight talk about marriage and sex
0:11.0	and life and conflict and the good and the bad and the ugly.
0:15.4	Right.
0:15.9	Good and bad and the ugly of marriage and the marriage relationship.
0:18.8	Right.
0:18.8	And this time we're going to go a little bit of a different path than we've done in some ways. And here's how it's going to be framed. And it's just an email that came in. So we're just going to jump right in to the show. So hey, Corey and Pam, long time listener here. Spouse and I have been part of the SMR nation for years. And we've got two adult kids now, both dating serious partners.
0:38.9	And I keep hoping to forward them an SMR episode with subject lines like, listen to this before you say I do.
0:45.6	Problem is, most of your shows assume people are already married and knee deep in the good stuff,
0:50.3	you know, things like, why won't he talk to me during sex or how do I stop my spouse from
0:54.7	fill in the blank?
0:56.4	I need something that's more like, hey, sweet 20-somethings, here's how to not blow up your
1:00.5	engagement.
1:02.0	Do you guys have an episode for couples who are dating or engaged, something that covers
1:05.7	things like how to actually work through conflict or how to talk about sex and money
1:09.8	before it gets awkward?
1:12.0	Or how to spot the difference between butterflies and emotional immaturity that's a good point basically i want to
1:17.8	help my kids get a head start on the stuff it took us 15 years to learn but without making them roll their
1:23.4	eyes at me if you've already done a series like that please point me to it not, maybe that's a nudge from the universe before you all, because you guys need to make one. You can even call it before I say to, before I say I do for real. And yes, I'll take 5% of the royalties in the form of free coaching. Thanks for what you do. Your work has shaped how we love and parent and show up in our marriage.
1:44.6	Now let's help the next generation skip at least some of the dumb mistakes we made,
1:48.9	a loyal SMR fan and a slightly meddling parent.
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