Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today on Ask Dr. Kim, we're going to be talking about how do I know if my

spouse and I need a marriage counselor. What a great question to even be thinking about.

And, you know, it's always a good idea to really be assessing, do I need help? You know, that's a

hard thing to want to ask yourself. So Dr. Jim, what are some signs that someone might need to go see

a marriage counselor? Yeah, I think if you're stuck, you feel like, man, we're just, we can't get out of this deal, we're in a rut, we are in the same cycles that we can't seem to break. If you're distant from each other and you've found, well, we're, we've tried to connect and we're just, it's not working. If we're having conflict that we can't resolve, if sex is all of a sudden off the table or it's something that causes conflict or causes

problems instead of something that you embrace and joy. I mean, just I think anything where you say,

you know, our marriage is off track and we just don't seem to be able to get it back on and we don't

want it to go this way. And so let's go to marriage counseling. Yeah. A lot of times people come in something that's not a big deal,

but they just have struggled with a little bit.

And we just may meet two or three sessions and they're back on track, you know.

So I think, again, don't let it continue to go.

If it's a sex problem, you don't want us to let the go to where you both get frustrated, and then all of a sudden somebody steps out of the marriage and all this,

you think back and you think, you know, when we were frustrated,

what if we'd gone to marriage counseling and got back together then?

Yeah, definitely.

I think that brings up a really good point.

You know, do most couples go see a counselor, like, when they need to?

Like, what are the stats there? What does that look like? What have you seen?

Oh, I think it's, unless it's infidelity, I think the answer's no.

Yeah. Usually when there's infidelity, if the couple wants to try to work it out, they're going to come in immediately. Just, I mean, I can, you know, most of the couples I see for infidelity,

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