Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim, Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today on Ask Dr. Kim, we're talking about a submission that someone submitted,

talking about how they don't want to yell at their spouse. How can they manage their anger better? What a great question and one that you're thinking about.

So already a great step in the right direction. Dr. Kim, what are some ways to manage anger?

How can we cope with this feeling in a healthy way?

You know, I think first you've got to realize you've got to take responsibility for your anger.

That it's so easy to say, how many times in counseling I've heard someone say,

they made me angry, they did this and I got angry.

Okay, you made a choice to get angry there.

Anger is a choice that we make.

And I think a lot of times we don't realize that.

I think a lot of times we get conditioned and it comes so quickly.

There's usually a warning signs before we get angry.

You know, the Bible says be angry and do not sin.

So, I mean, God knows we're going to get angry.

And I think sometimes we don't realize that God did give us all of our emotions.

But they're all there for a reason.

And anger, sure, that means there's something wrong. It is a red flag, but how do you handle the

anger? So I think the way you manage it first is you've got to take responsibility for your anger,

and then you can look at yourself and see, okay, why am I getting angry? We all usually have a

trigger. I had one guy that said he would get a hot spot in the back of his neck right before he would get angry.

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