You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I'm going to be

sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. Now, usually I steer clear of making

big sweeping generalizations like that, that you need these three things in order to make

your relationship work. Because as you will have heard me say so many times, life is messy,

relationships are messy, there's nuance. There's context.

There's individual preferences and differences and there's a million different

variations of what could work and what works for one person, might not work for

another, et cetera, et cetera.

And at the same time, having worked with so many people and heard so many people's

situations and struggles, gone through my fair share

in my own personal life, I can comfortably say that the three things I'm going to share today

are an undercurrent to all successful relationships in that without these things and, you know, as a bit of a teaser,

these are not things like, you know, you must see each other this many times per week. It's

nothing surface level like that that is, you know, too variable to be useful. These are really

essential foundational core ingredients on a structural level that allow you to build

something workable together.

So I'm hoping that in sharing this, it will have a two-pronged effect for you.

One, for the future, or even for a current relationship, if you're in one, that you can see where

you need to focus your energy and attention in terms of understanding what it will take

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