Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience dating,

love and relationships. I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert, Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey. and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today we're going to be talking all about how to self-soothe and how to work through a trigger when it arises.

So this is one of the questions I get asked all the time.

And I think that's because, you know, for so many of us, we intellectually know what's going on,

right? We read the books. We listen to the podcast. We follow the Instagram accounts. We do the

online courses. We know what's accounts. We do the online courses.

We know what's going on.

And then when it comes down to it in those moments of trigger when we're fighting with a partner or something happens that freaks us out, all of that stuff goes out the window.

And we go back to all of our default patterns, which whether it's anxiety, whether it's

avoidance, whether it's some, whether it's avoidance,

whether it's some combination or something else altogether, that overpowering fear and what

it does to your body when you're disregulated, when you're triggered, it can feel really

distressing and almost like you're at war with yourself, right?

And then afterwards you sort of look back and go, what the hell just happened?

It's almost like your whole brain and body gets hijacked.

And as we'll talk about today, it kind of is like that's happening.

So you're not alone in that.

And don't worry, you're not broken.

And there are things that you can do to become really masterful at understanding what's

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