Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping

you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling this. As always, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about thinking about our language when it comes to how we present ourselves to others, but not the language we use in speaking to others, the language we use to speak to ourselves. I'm really fascinated by the mixture of research and soul on this topic about how the words we say to ourselves totally dictate how we show up. And when

we're in a certain state, a certain frequency, other people can feel it. But it all starts with

words. Words either put us in a state of curiosity or they put us in a state of neediness. And that's what I want to talk about today, how we can avoid call it the language of neediness. I talk about the language of optimism all the time. Let's talk about the language of neediness so that we don't use it. And I think it's really important because we think about a topic like neediness.

Most people think, oh, neediness is, you know, that's like an emotional problem that you,

case, you're working through that, right? That's an emotional problem. We think neediness comes

from something emotional, some kind of insecurity, some kind of self-esteem issue, loneliness,

lack of confidence, you name it. That is,

if you feel needy, well, you just need to become more confident and then you'll be good.

You just need to work on your self-esteem, just improve yourself and just care less what other

people think. And I certainly think there's truth in that advice, but I think it misses something

really important, which is neediness is linguistic before it's emotional.

I think long before neediness shows up in behavior, it shows up in attention.

And attention, that is where your attention goes, is dictated exclusively by language.

Specifically, that is, the questions we ask ourselves,

the way we speak to ourselves. And that's another topic that I'm fascinated by, because we assume

that our inner dialogue is a reflection of our emotional state. But the reality is, in the same

way that words create reality, words shape our emotional state.

The words we use don't just describe what's happening in our inner lives. They dictate what's

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