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you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

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Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 771. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of new mindset who this, as always. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I've named it the phone test. And to be clear, this isn't about playing any games or like being immature or like doing something just to see what your partner does. This is an observation of a behavior that I think could really indicate whether someone is good for you or not, invested in you or not. I'll explain specifically

what it is in a minute, but the phone test isn't really about phones. That's the context because

everyone has their phones. Your phone plays a large role in where your attention goes every single day.

So this isn't about phones necessarily. That's the context. This is about priority and this is

about respect, things that I'm sure you'd agree every relationship needs, whether you're

22 and just dating someone or 62 and in a long-term committed relationship with someone.

A relationship is basically just thousands and thousands of a little small micro moments

where you're saying without saying it to your partner that you're either present or not.

It's either I'm here or I'm not here.

And the phone, the way we use our phones, either gets in the way or provides a bridge to connection.

And if that bridge is broken, if that bridge is disconnected, if that bridge is distracted,

you have a reliability problem and we need to pay attention to that.

So I want to present a couple three, really just three

phone scenarios here and indicate, use them to indicate the phone test theory and why this is so

important about priority and respect. First, answering texts, right? Answering text, someone answering your text isn't about speed. It's about

reliability. Like, let's get practical, of course. When it comes to how fast does someone answer your text?

People have jobs. People have meetings. People have kids. People have anxiety. People get overwhelmed.

People miss things. Family stuff, stuff job stuff sometimes a text does

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