You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode 77, neutralize.

Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed,

and results-focused approach to quitting porn. This approach has been revolutionary and changed

thousands and thousands of lives.

I'm your host, Sarah Brewer.

Hey, you guys, welcome to the podcast episode this week.

Today I want to talk about neutralizing and why neutralizing our porn habit or looking at porn or the facts around pornography or

any of that, why neutralizing that is a really amazing tool to quit being porn and why neutralizing

it will help you quit porn easier and quit it faster. So the more neutral that we can make our circumstances,

the less drama that we have around our circumstances, the easier it is to make changes.

And the reason for this is that, if you remember, I've talked about this in the podcast

before, is that our feelings create our actions and our feelings drive our actions. And so you are going to have different

actions from a place of happiness than from a place of sadness. And if you're feeling sad,

but you're trying to take actions like you would if you were happy, it's not going to be the same action.

You're not going to be able to take it for very long.

You're going to burn out.

That's why so many of us we try to quit viewing porn from a place of discouragement.

And the action that you're taking isn't driven by the discouragement, right?

So you're trying to like be upbeat and you're trying really hard

to like just quit and to muscle your way through quitting. But the main emotion is discouragement.

You're going to burn out really quickly. You're not going to be able to quit. So many people focus on

just the action to quit porn. I have to do this and this and this and this and this. What we need to do

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