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Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 760. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset. Who This, as always, thank you so much for listening.

Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about what it means to date down.

Have you heard this phrase before? I saw this woman on TikTok talking about how she always reminds

her friends to never date down, no matter what, don't date down. And I of of course, agree with that sentiment. But I was thinking about, like, what does that actually mean? What does it mean to date down? I don't think it has anything to do with, like, dating someone who's beneath your league or being someone who's not attractive or who doesn't make enough money, any fluff like that. I was thinking, what does it mean to date down on a deeper level?

And I think I have a good answer, but it's not too deep. Like, it's not about some like cosmic

misalignment. It's not too spiritual. I think it's really practical, but with deep implications. And here's

what I came up with. Dating down is when your dating life costs you time, money, and momentum. Dating down is when

your dating life costs you time, money, and momentum because you're dating someone who doesn't

have their life together in a sense. Let's start here. I think it's a practical entry point into

the topic. Dating down. And so this looks like a couple of specifics. You are always

the one planning because if you don't plan, nothing happens. Every hang out, every date turns into

a logistical nightmare. Someone's lost. They're lost. They're late. They, you know, it's what do you

want to do? Their phone is dead. They don't have a jacket, whatever. Another example is, you know, they always have some kind of excuse. Their car is in the shop. The paycheck is delayed. The landlord is ripping them off. Their life is always a thing. Something is always happening to them. And you start paying for it. You're no longer dating a person. You're

dating this disorganization. And of course, that sounds very practical. And it's okay to if you are that

person who maybe you don't have your life together, maybe you're a clutz, maybe you trip over

your feet, maybe you lose things. That's okay. I'm talking about you being with someone where because of

them, not really having their life together, your world suddenly gets less polished. So I'm not

talking about materialistic things. I'm talking about what happens in your life as a result.

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