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and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's episode is how to leave a relationship when you know you need to. So this was a question that I got from

someone in my community. And as much as it's a big conversation, it's a messy conversation,

and it's a conversation that's going to have a huge number of variables that are obviously very

personal. I think it's also a really important conversation.

And it's one that I know when I was in this situation a few years ago,

I really could have used some guidance on this

because I know I felt very alone and very confused and very overwhelmed

by knowing that I needed to do this thing,

but not knowing how I was actually going to do it.

And that can be really paralyzing.

And I think we can get really stuck there and really just the whole thing gets very drawn out and can be longer and more painful than it needs to be.

Because maybe we don't trust ourselves. Maybe we don't trust

in our own resilience and our capacity to navigate difficult things or we just feel so overwhelmed

by the task ahead and the road ahead that we shrink and we freeze and we don't actually do

the thing we know we need to do. So I'm hoping that in

today's conversation, while there will be a lot of caveats and a lot of reminders that this is not

universal advice and it's not going to be a one-size-fits-all thing and it's certainly not a

prescriptive blueprint for the steps you need to take in every situation. I'm hoping that what we'll discuss

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