You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I'm going to be

answering the question of why healthy relationships can sometimes feel boring,

particularly if you've not had many healthy relationships and so you're coming into maybe your

first ever healthy, stable, secure relationship after a string of really dysfunctional,

turbulent, unhealthy relationships. This is something that a lot of people experience. There can be this almost

unsettling discomfort of being in a relationship where there's no drama and chaos. And we can

either feel that as a form of low level anxiety or maybe a loss of attraction or kind of disinterest

in our partner because they're so stable and reliable and available

to us and we're used to chasing someone who isn't. So there's lots to unpack there and I'm

going to be talking about that today, you know, why unhealthy relationships can be so addictive,

even though it's ostensibly the opposite of what we say we want. There's something within us

that chases that drama and that inconsistency and that unpredictability. And what you can do if

you do find yourself kind of uncomfortable with a healthy, stable relationship rather than just

pulling away or sabotaging it because, you know, it feels unfamiliar to you.

I'm going to be offering some tips for you to hopefully get through those growing pains so that you

can continue with and maybe not let go of the healthy relationship that you've worked so hard to find.

That's what I'm going to be talking about today.

Before I dive into that, just sharing the

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