Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

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you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 659.

Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset Who Dis, as always. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today I want to talk about what I've learned is the most important part of a healthy relationship. And frankly, it's more important than a lot of the things that I talk about a lot on the podcast. Do they understand you? Are they patient with you?

Are they willing to compromise? Are they willing to have tough conversations? And so on and so on. And are you willing to do the same? But without this one thing being the foundation, I don't think

those things will really happen. And that one thing, that one element is safety. Do you feel safe with them?

Do they feel safe with you? Is your overall relationship grounded in the idea of safety?

And I'm sure you've heard about attachment styles, right? Of course you have. And I'm sure you've

heard the idea of having a secure attachment that's thrown around the internet a lot.

Secure attachment is goals.

That's how you want to be secure attachment, right?

It's where there's trust, there's intimacy, there's communication, there's balance.

Well, you know, for all that's written and studied about how to become secure with a partner,

how to find a partner who's secure in themselves

and the relationship is secure, secure, secure, secure, for all that's written about it,

I think it really just boils down to safety, or at least safety is such an important element

of it. Emotional safety is the cornerstone of a secure relationship. When you have this idea of safety,

which I'll talk about because it's not quite what I used to think it was. When you have

safety, you have this sense of warm confidence that your partner will respond to your

emotional needs during times of stress. Emphasis there

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