You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's Q&A episode is all about navigating paranoia about a partner cheating.

So the specific question that I'm answering is one that I got on Instagram,

and it was, how do I navigate paranoia and all-consuming fear of cheating,

even when there's no warranted situation at hand?

So if you are someone who really struggles with the fear of infidelity and all of the associated

behaviours that can spring from that, paranoia, overthinking, control, playing detective,

maybe snooping, struggling to trust your partner, really struggling with any sort of distance

between you because you tend to fill in the blanks

and assume that the moment they're out of sight, they're going to be doing something in breach

of the agreements of your relationship. All of these things can flow from that paranoia about a partner

cheating. And so if that's something that you experience at the moment or you have in the past,

you know that that's something you struggle with.

Today's episode should be really helpful for you in understanding that piece of you a little more.

I think that for me to say that I can solve that for you in a 15-minute episode would be misleading

because there's usually a lot of stuff

wrapped up in it.

But I suppose the way I'd frame it is probably as you do the broader work of healing

and becoming more secure in yourself, of building your self-worth, then your fear around

things like infidelity and the paranoia and the need to control will probably organically

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