This is probably one of the most destructive things in our lives is telling ourselves a story about what someone else is thinking of us.

Because the reality is that whether you're right or whether you're wrong, you will likely never know.

The likelihood that you will ever know if in that, you know, in March of 2022,

did Kelly think that I was acting rude at the family dinner like

you know was was that what she was thinking in March 20? What is the likelihood?

Yeah, sometimes you have confrontation, you talk to people,

you find out, oh my gosh, my mother-in-law does actually hate me.

I thought this was all in my head, but she really doesn't like me at all.

Sometimes you find that stuff out. Most of the time you tell

yourself a story and even if the story is right, even if your mother-in-law does

hate you, explain to me how you obsessing over that and thinking over that and worse,

making decisions about how you live your life based on this idea.

How does it serve you?

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