Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host.

Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, it is time for another listener Q&A podcast so I've got a couple more

of these lined up for the year and then that's gonna be it for a little while

so if you have questions you've been waiting to ask me now's the time

send them in send them to info I NFO at redesign your mind dot com and of course I try to

get to the ones that I can but I can't answer every question I get. I get a lot of questions and I try to pick the ones that I think are going to have the most learning value for everyone.

Right? Because this is a podcast not an

individual coaching session okay so let's just get started what's in the

reader mailbag okay so any hi Kara, how do you take criticism graciously?

Like whenever I make a mistake or get criticized, I either clam up or act defensively.

When I try to make it light-hearted, I'm trying too hard.

Okay, so great question.

The answer is that you clam up or act defensively

because you think it's criticism.

Even the way that you ask this question

shows me that you can't take feedback

and just be curious about it,

you think that it's criticism.

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