Hello and welcome to the new Mindset Who-This podcast. My name is Case Kenny at

Case. Cany on Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no-BS episodes

dedicated to helping you become the person you're meant to be leave

your comfort zone and live a purposeful and fulfilling life.

Let's go. Oh, All right. Welcome to episode 559. Hello my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of new mindset who this as always

thank you so much for listening thank you for supporting me and today here's the

headline in my experience and what I've learned from

frankly obsessing over the practice of mindfulness that is the practice of honesty

what I've learned from mindfulness in the context of dating and relationships.

One of the biggest reasons we play a role in our own suffering

is we do this thing where we date from expectations

instead of standards. We love, we date, we date. We're in relationships with expectations as our North Star instead of standards.

That is, we date from a place of wanting, expecting, fantasizing, potentializing, if that's a word,

potentializing certain outcomes and behaviors and scenarios in our head. And you know when that happens, I would say nine times out of ten we end up

disappointed or we end up hurt because we focused on the potential of those

expectations being delivered that we missed out on the reality of what was,

or we end up missing out on something good because it didn't quite fit the narrow view of some preconceived

expectation. And we do this to ourselves and we end up being hurt or we end up

resenting someone for not being who we wanted them to be. Regardless though, the result is the same. We wind up a bit more closed off than we were before.

A bit less optimistic, a bit less hopeful because of those darn expectations.

Those darn expectations, I sound like a grumpy old man.

Those darn kids, those darn expectations.

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